Many children think that when their parents are getting a divorce that it is something they did. Help your child process their thoughts and feelings and reassure them that you both love them and that this was not their fault. Put yourself in your child's shoes: how would you feel if your parent's told you that they were getting a divorce and wouldn't be living together anymore? Everything they once knew is going to be changing. Try to understand your child's feelings towards the divorce and listen to them when they want to talk.
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Keep your thoughts to yourself or seek support from friends, family or a professional counselor.Ĥ. Both parental figures have important roles in a child's life for them to thrive in the current divorce situation. The goal is for the child to continue to grow their relationships with both mom and dad. Blaming each other for the divorce in front of your child or telling them whose "fault" it is may force the child to feel like they need to choose a parent's side. Be open in answering any questions your children have but refrain from blaming the other parent. Tell them what they need to know (Where will they be living? When will they see each parent? Will they continue to stay at their current school?).ģ. By sharing too much information may cause more harm to your child and the relationship they have with either parent. It doesn't matter who initiated the divorce or what happened. Some details are not necessary to share with your children and often times the child will become confused. Avoid sharing information that is harmful to your children. You will both need to put your emotions aside (which I know can be difficult) and think about what is best for your children.Ģ. Pick a time when both you and your spouse feel emotionally ready to share the news. Having a family meeting can be most helpful with both parents present. You need to be unified parents and on the same page as much as possible for the benefit of your children. Should you tell them before or after your divorce is finalized? Make sure that you are 100% that you are following through with the divorce before you tell your children. Sit down with each other and decide on when the best time would be to tell your children. Here are some helpful tips that may help ease your situation:ġ. You may be wondering how can we tell the children? When do we tell our children? What do we say to them to make this as least painful as possible? When children are involved, it can make the situation a bit more complicated. Getting a divorce can be a challenging process for any relationship.
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